He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Psalm 113:9
The next story of the Bible is one of great controversy between two women at which many of us might be able to relate our own stories with. If you have step children, take care of another person's child for them, or have done surrogacy, this story could apply to you. I've done some research on it and I'm not sure theologists would agree, but here's my opinion...
Sairai (which eventually is named Sarah) was Abram's (and he becomes Abraham) wife and she was unable to bear children. After 10 years of marriage, she decided that her husband was going to sleep with their servant Hagar, so he would have an heir. The plan worked and Hagar gave birth to Ishmael. However, this made Sarai very jealous and she was awful to Hagar. I forgot to mention that God already told Abram that he will bless him with offspring from the beginning. Why did Sarai not wait then? Did she not trust in God and have faith? Because of the feud going on with Sarai and Hagar, God did bless Sarai with a son, at the tender age of 90! She named him Isaac, and then she had no need for Ishmael, and was not very nice to him. Abram had great love for both of his boys and was torn when Sarai demanded both Hagar and Ishmael leave. We'll talk later about what happens to Hagar and Ishmael.
I find it funny that God had mercy on Sarah after how she treated Hagar. Then again, He is awesome and will do what he sees fit for us. The moral of the story for me is faith, patience and compassion. Sarah didn't wait for God to bless her with a child instead she took it upon herself to fix the problem for her husband, but then was nasty and jealous. How many of us make a decision and then we're angry at the outcome? Have faith and patience, God knows what is best. I've had to learn the hard way of not waiting for God's timing...but God eventually had mercy on me as well, and I am truly blessed today.
Yes, I have a step-son, and I think is the other part of this story is in which we should learn from. Those of us with mixed families and children whichever form they come in should pay close attention to how they are treating them. When you said "I do" you spoke the covenant between the two of you and your blended families. If you respect and love your spouse then you need to respect and love everything they do, especially when children are involved. Have compassion for the children that aren't biologically yours, for they did not ask to be in the position they are in. If it were up to them, they might see God's plan played out differently. Keep in mind your sins when you're feeling resentful towards others. Love with everything, after all the person you love the most is apart of them too.
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32
After Abram is kicked out of Egypt, He and his nephew, Lot, decide to split land and go separate ways. Abram was rich in livestock, so he let Lot choose which land he wanted and told him to tend to his own and there wouldn't be a controversy between them.
Lot finds himself in trouble with the kings of Sodom and when Abram hears about this he turns to God for help. God wants to wipe out the whole town of Sodom because the people in it are evil and the town is wicked. But Abram tries to plead with God, and spare the good people in the town. Abram believes there has to be few that are good and he would also like for his family to be saved from God's judgement. After Abram fights the kings and wins, God spares Abram's nephew, Lot, and his wife. However God gave Lot's wife specific instructions not to look back at the town being destroyed but she didn't listen, so God turned her into dust.
Because Abram showed great compassion for the people of Sodom, even when they weren't worthy of such compassion and grace, Lot was spared. Abram was able to see good in some and wanted to help others in hopes they could become good. Because of this, God blessed Abram and his heirs with more land and wealth.
The message of this story is that we too shall have compassion for others even when we feel they're undeserving. God's judgement can be harsh and sometimes not what we want, but if we continue to give others second chances and believe in them, God will reward and bless those greatly.
"Why did you not tell me she was your wife?"